Ok Guys and Gals Here is a question for everyone. The holidays are coming and i alway get flowers sent to WAW mom. Should i still do this and also should I wish WAW a happy turkey day. ALso I am waiting to see if she will even wish me a happy birthday next week. Its ok if she does not but I would like to know how I should reply if she does wish me a happy birthday....
Holidays i know are always hard but so far im ok
Love you all that help me God bless
The way I'm reading the bolded section above, you're talking about getting flowers sent to your MIL. If, as you say, this is what you normally do, I say continue to do so. She isn't the one who walked out on you. No need to cut her off or 'punish' her.
As for wishing your wife a happy holiday, do what ever will make you feel best, because frankly I don't think it will matter either way to her. (right now anyway)
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Ok Guys and Gals Here is a question for everyone. The holidays are coming and i alway get flowers sent to WAW mom. Should i still do this and also should I wish WAW a happy turkey day. ALso I am waiting to see if she will even wish me a happy birthday next week. Its ok if she does not but I would like to know how I should reply if she does wish me a happy birthday....
Holidays i know are always hard but so far im ok
Love you all that help me God bless
The way I'm reading the bolded section above, you're talking about getting flowers sent to your MIL. If, as you say, this is what you normally do, I say continue to do so. She isn't the one who walked out on you. No need to cut her off or 'punish' her.
As for wishing your wife a happy holiday, do what ever will make you feel best, because frankly I don't think it will matter either way to her. (right now anyway)
Yes I am talking about my MIL . However the last time i sent flowers to MIL and other Inlaws as I always did. WAW was very angry she did not get any. So I am trying to avoid that if i can. She is crazy sometimes. If i do im wrong if i dont im wrong. lol
As far as saying happy turkey day we will see when the time comes. Like you said dont think it matters to her at this point. Would be nice to have her say it to me first lol. Just like my birthday that same week. It would be nice to see if she even says anything to me but not holding my breath...
Yes I am talking about my MIL . However the last time i sent flowers to MIL and other Inlaws as I always did. WAW was very angry she did not get any. So I am trying to avoid that if i can. She is crazy sometimes. If i do im wrong if i dont im wrong. lol
As far as saying happy turkey day we will see when the time comes. Like you said dont think it matters to her at this point. Would be nice to have her say it to me first lol. Just like my birthday that same week. It would be nice to see if she even says anything to me but not holding my breath...
Well then maybe only sending them to MIL will make W jealous. It will show that you're still a thoughtful man, but you're giving up on her.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
The way I'm reading the bolded section above, you're talking about getting flowers sent to your MIL. If, as you say, this is what you normally do, I say continue to do so. She isn't the one who walked out on you. No need to cut her off or 'punish' her.
Oh I misunderstood, thought you meant W. That's a tough one. I would probably not send flowers so as not to irk W, but maybe send a card instead.
This WAW is so unprodictable I send text to say sleep well nd God Bless last night and now no reply again. wow she is realy a nut job i think.
But anyway All I can do is keep living for me with the hope of something happing with WAW.
I will i think say happy turkey day to her but we will see. Just thinking I should be the better man and say it even if she does not say it first or even reply
well today is my birthday and my WAW sent me a text wishing me a happy birthday. that mad me feel good. i realy did not think she was going to do that.
I told her thank you and hope all is well with her. no reply but did not want one
just still confused on if i should wish her a happy turkey day or not. but we will see
Well hope everyone had a good holiday. For me it was ok i did wait for a text from my WAW to say happy holiday but did not get one. well i sent one to her half way thrue the day. she did reply but very few words. I am just trying to be the friend here with her i guess. But i seem to be getting no place. just always me texting and her reply with 2 or 3 words and thats it. every few day i try to make a longer convertation but it seems to be cut off by her. so tell me if im wrong here just seems like i may be making her more upset when i text her like it is a big bother for her to engage me. even at a small level.
So I was thinking that i should not text her any more even if i think it may be bad to stop. What i mean is it took some time to get her to reply to texts and now im going to cut it off. i just dont know what is best. keeping the line open or just shut it for now.
Keep it open but move on with your life. No reason to completely shut it unless that's what you want.
It sounds like you have choosen to not be as depressed as you were a while back LF, good job and keep it up. You CAN build a content life for yourself without her. You must.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Yes FY i am not as depressed as i was. Thank God!!!! but we all know we have ups and downs. I do still pray every day that this may work out someday but I can not let it stop me from living.
it is just hard some times but we can make it if we all stick together here.
