The price for being the person they always wanted is MLC!
This struck a cord with me. It just dawned on me that XH was somewhat like Lois's H, though completely different lifestyles it seems. It doesn't sound like you H had a voice Lois. Especially if his father was a politician... oh boy howdy! That's tough!
XH had a controlling stepfather that controlled choices XH should've been able to make himself and encouraged as a young man! Like what electives he wanted to take in high school! Xh also wanted to joing the Marine Corps, but MIL threw a kiniption fit! She didn't want her baby going to war so he begged him to go to college, and she would pay for it. XH agreed BUT HE NEVER WANTE TO GO. So he drank, and flunked out of criminology class. He later told me he never wanted to be there in the fist place but his mother begged him so he gave in.
Xh said to me with heavy regret a few years ago if he had joined the Marines he could've been retired by now and could pursue his other passion which would be computer programming. I remember encouraging him to do so anyway, but to him he just had this defeated attitude of " it's too late".
Lands sakes alive all these pieces just keep falling into place with each passing day.
