H and I separated in June, about 5 1/2 months ago. Things had been crappy for a good while prior to that, leading to my involvement in a "texting" A. H asked me to leave after he found something on my phone, which I did.
Moved back home in Sept (at my insistence). I recently found out that H went to a lawyer and tried to start D proceedings soon afterwards, but L talked him off the ledge. We have recently started MC but H states he does not know how he'd like to move forward.
Currently, things have been going smoothly between us. No fighting, no tension, we are actually laughing together and maybe even enjoying each other's company. We had a nice family Thanksgiving and it looks like we'll have a family Christmas too. He enjoys it when I give him a back rub in the evenings and I think that has helped us come back together.
However, H is still holding back emotionally. I am still sleeping in the guest room (sofa bed), which I hate. H does not wear his wedding ring. I'm not thrilled with our MC - he's very passive and H needs more direction in order to get out of his emotional rut, I think.
H also suffers from depression and is on multiple meds. One other issue at play is with his mother, who abandoned the family when H was a teen and H has never dealt with it. It's coming into our R and has been for a few years.
So I'm struggling with how to make that final jump back to H & W. I think the ball is in H's court and I just have to sit back and wait for him to serve it.
Will post another update after today's MC session.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page
