MLC, affair, internet pictures, we're a mess

[cantslowdown]

finally headed to our first MC session. I am not going to say I am there to "save the marriage" but rather I am there to learn how to communicate with her. I beleive we are both saying a lot of things, but it always fall on deaf ears, like we are speaking a different language. This leads to misunderstandings and arguments and more distance.

I spent too much time tyring to fill her wants thinking I had filled her needs. Subsequently I put her wants over my needs and then I never clearly communicated what my needs were. That is my fault. I believe the same for her, she never clearly communicated what needs were important to her. She also unquestioningly basked in the glory of her filled wants. Never once checking to see if I had what I wanted or needed (or maybe she did and I didn't understand her?).

So the root? Communication needs to change.