I did better when my W moved out, without any notice, 9 1/2 months ago than i have been doing since she 1st got back in touch to schedule some visits with our S-9.
She went 97 days over S's summer vacation with only 1 visit and phone call to our S. I did better with the minimal contact.
Ed
ED thanks for your ton houghts. I am pretty detached right now. In my stich with her moving it, i will still be seeing her every day....I guess a blessing for others but for me, i really want to go dark. I want her to know what it feels like and if she can live with it, then we go our seperate ways.
I think you are right. She needs to feel the repercussions of what a D will feel like. In my own case, my W is following in the footsteps of how she was raised in an alcoholic and crack addicted divorced mother, who placed my W in the care of others repeatedly up until my W turned 12 and decided to move back to Parent the 2 younger children when her mom was in her worst addictive state.
So, my W's upbringing and parental influence did not model missing your family and children. Yours should show different results weighing on her conscience. They need to feel the consequences like a sledge hammer blow to shock them back into reality.
