Heather, I'm sorry for your pain right now. You have the same thoughts that I do, how can this man be the guy I loved, had kids with, and now be this mean, unfriendly,rude, irresponsible a$$hole.

I get the privalage of knowing the OW that most do not. She is a very mean person, she feels entitled to whatever she wants, like the world "owes her" shes a very bad mother and always the victim so I can definatly see that she is rubbing off on my H.

When he was with OW#1, she was accomplished, worldly ect...and he started drinking wine for the first time EVER so I really think they adapt to whomever they are with. Now with OW#2 shes a stripper/welfare abuser and hes back to beer and dressing like hes a 20 yr old but cheap looking. I think your H's OW is probably much the same, But I have to believe that nothing good will come out of their lives.

I read something on FB the other day it said something like "In years to come a pretty face will age, a nice body will not look the same, buta good woman will always be a good woman" Just a thought.

M 41 H 43
M 22
S 18 S 14 D 11
Affair discovered 1/12
He filed 2/12
OW#2 7/12 she lives next door.
D pending