LL 25's post is right on the money as usual. You are right OW did do you a favor. Look at it like this he is her problem now. I would suggest that anytime your thoughts wander to her just think about how he will do the same thing to her that he has done to you. You have the right attitude about saving yourself. Sounds to me like your H is incapable of being loyal to one woman. He has some serious moral flaws. You deseve better so start acting that way. Plenty of good men out there who will treat you the way you want/deserve to be treated when the time is right.
M 44 W 43 S 23 S 15 INILWY 9/11 Divorce Mediation started 3/13 June 30 the day W is moving out