BeingMe, I think you'll enjoy the Astronomy Club. You'll meet a lot of different people and I think it would be a fascinating hobbie. Go for it!
As for your h, I think when you told him about the divorce, etc., I think it shocked him into a tailspin. LOL! The poor doggie won't have any hair left if he continues brushing the doggie! Maybe brushing the dog soothes your h because it is something repetitive??
If you are absolutely sure you can't do this anymore, by all means, go forward w/the D. Your h could be doing a last ditch effort to stall you and if you cave in, he'll go back to doing what he was doing. It's hard to tell, but I'm putting my money on you and what you need to do to move forward w/your life.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
