This coming week, I really have to focus on responding gently and calmly. No anger, no bitterness, just a husband who loves his child.
How have you shown this love in the past? Describe the loving actions, actions that don't include buying things.
And I'll ask again, have you ever haven your son for any period of time by yourself? Have you bathed him, changed diapers, made sure he's fed, played with him?
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W will be furious, mad and sore angry. I'm NOT trying to force respect on anyone, but I think that I gave several opportunities for her to make a step in my direction, and she has to realize that her own choices lead to the explosion of our family. So far, she didn't feel ANY of the consequences of her choice to separate.
Apparently she doesn't want to step in your direction.
She doesn't have to. With all the anger you project, she's probably made a wise decision.
Bruce, you are trying to force her to respect you. You've lost something and you're afraid you won't get it back. Anger usually comes from fear.
I don't know what you feel is the most valuable thing you've lost here. That's what you need to figure out and work on.
Have you ever stepped in her direction, even before this? If so, how?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
