I think it's A LOT easier to forgive if you believe that a repeat of the misbehavior is unlikely...just as trust is easier to give if you really believe there is true remorse AND behavioral changes...
they all seem to go hand in hand...but You have actions to take (Not more words or plans or promises, but visible changes & tasks completed...heck, she gave you a roadmap)
so the talk about WHEN she'll forgive you is putting the cart before the horse.
I think you know what you need to do but you want a guarantee...YET
she worked 2 jobs while your finances were tanking w/you at the helm
AND you bullied her & taught the kids to do the same...
YET it took her years of effort at something she must've Hoped would improve...before she gave up & OM showed her some companionship. My point is you can take action (& another &another) w/o a guarantee.
We all have had to do that... it's an act of faith..MAYBE it'll win her back (it's definitely not hopeless)
but the only guarantee is YOU'll be a better man for it, AND you won't regret your behavior...from this day forward.
That's important.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
