Making it work, for me

[Big Bruce]

Sweetbabyred,
I really empathize on the "I didn't see it coming" part.

Same thing here, thought I was good at reading people and all, sbam! fell on me and it was the last thing I would have suspected.

I don't know what to tell you except this : don't live in denial.
I tried to justify my wife's anger, bad mood, bad character and her decision to separate and D. My parents were right, she acts out of who she truly is, I have to take my pinky glasses off.
Your husband used to be a gentleman. That's right, used to.

They say that OW or OM cases usually are solved within 6-9 months. Why not wait for this amount of time, and see what happens? I mean, GAL in the meantime, but if there's a chance with your H, it's not going to be right now. More like, in a couple of months...