Ms Rubytuesday, i'm so sorry to hear about your situation. It truly sounds like a sort of purgatory.
I find the lying fascinating. At this point, why still hide? Unless it is out of shame and fear that it will be held against them in some way.
My kicker is she slept with him in Nov.'11 and asked me to get a vasectomy about the same time. I got it in Jan. something poetically unjust there. I wish she would have told me before I was snipped. I did it so she could go off the pill. But then she didn't use a condom when she slept with him. So - I dont know.
What amazing creatures we are. How do we feel and fear ourselves into such distorted versions of ourselves.
Here's to unravelling ourselves and hopefully helping our spouses do the same.
