Making it work, for me

[sweetbabyred]

Ruby, just saw this post. Yes, I've given up on trying to be friends, at least right now. He isn't treating me with 1/10 of the care he gives any of his other friends, even the ones he knows are just using him. I only contact him when I need to.

H still hasn't paid the car insurance, so instead of texting him again about it for the 3rd time, I set up a Chase bank account so that I can send him an invoice for it. He banks with them and had to use quickpay to pay the amex back in sept, so maybe I'll get the money this way. I'll send the request in the am.

Yep, I filled out all the paperwork for us to get married, buy the house, get health and life insurance, did the taxes and everything else. If he wants to be on his own, it's his turn to do the work.

I want friends who will tell me the truth and not hide things from me. I wouldn't take this behavior from anyone else, so why should I accept it from someone I care(d) so much about?

I was so upset when I found out that he and OW were official that I asked him to send me the papers and I'd fill them out myself. He never did so, and now that we'd still be married at the end of the year, I might as well wait a little longer. I'm worried about our taxes and would have been better off on my own, but the sitch hasn't gotten financially worse recently (as far as I know nothing has really changed since we sold the house) I'm going to let him make the first move.