KD, my general thoughts are a little less self-centered than "what's in it for me."
Actually, I don't think so. Here's why:\
Originally Posted By: Crazyville
I choose to spend that time instead helping S12 with his homework.
Yes, I know you followed that by saying you would rather do the yard work. The reality is, you are NOT doing the yard work. So... You are getting more value by tutoring your S.
Let me repeat that:
You get more value tutoring your S. What is in THAT for YOU is whatever that might be. In your case, you are suggesting it's "economic", not enough time, etc... THAT is what is in it, for you.
I doubt that, though. I suspect you tutor your S because you enjoy spending time with your S, even while you THINK it's because you can't afford a tutor. AND... I'm sure you could provide validation toward that end...
Here's the thing... some people would not tutor their child OR pay a tutor. They would put that responsibility on the school or on the child.
So...
You choose to tutor your son...
Because THAT (what ever "that" is) is what is in it, for you...
BTW, you mentioned in RLA's post a warning that RLA should be careful not to ignore her H's thoughts, or however you said that, suggesting that your H does that to you and you wish he would show you that he was paying attention.
Since I know that you will tell me that you HAVE told him to pay attention and it did no good, so you won't do it again, even to my pleading that perhaps you did not tell him in a way he understood...
I would simply state, it's likely you did not let him know that it was important to you that he indicates your concerns are important to you... in a way that he truly understood the urgency.
And on that note, regarding your interest in an answer to SS's question about what to do when someone chronically lies and their morals are polar opposite of one's own...
