Husband left in September. I need HELP

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Mr Bond,
I completely agree. I think part of our problem has been that I have done so much and that he has never had to function in our life. I don't normally walk around saying that to him. I have done it for many years without saying anything but he started taking me for granted and that's when the complaining came in. I agree with you when you say no one would want to be with someone that walks around with an attititude like that and in this time of separation I have seen where I have gone wrong.

In 2006 we separated after I had major surgery. I was recovering at my parents house and he said he wanted a divorce. After about a month I moved back in because I didn't want to be the one to abandon my house. He never left and we went on life. He was happy for a while but then it began again.

My only expectation of him is to be my partner and a good father. I want someone to share my life with and that's it. I don't expect him to do everything I do I just need a hand here and there. At this point we are separated and I have had time to think about the past. I love him despite everything that has happened.

I haven't been perfect in our marriage and it took a counselor to tell me that we haven't had a balanced relationship before I saw what I had done.