Thank your for your thoughts. Your post actually made me smile. Do you not think I have not hear the same from others many, many, many times before the second I say that he said he may want children? The reaction is always the same with slight variations on the same theme: blow him kisses and bubbles and ignore the last 18 years because, well, NOW he wants children? I was surprised that it took so long for someone to post it.
I wonder if the reaction would have been the same if I said I was infertile rather than by OUR decision WE did not want children?
I do not shy away from the hard truths. Except right now I do not know the "truth" as to whether or not this sudden longing is MLC or a biological clock. (BTW, he is 5 years older.)
Here is the real hard truth: The reality is that he has already left me for a newly separated woman with two children and while we are visiting tomorrow, I am fully aware it is limited time and that he may just be spending the day with me to appease his own guilt rather than any desire he has to actually spend some time with me. I also do not believe a true word has come out of his mouth for a very long time, well before BD. Our R really has a slim to none chance. I don't have the power to "keep" him where he does not want to be - one of the first things I learned here.
In joining this forum, I had hoped to get some help in both getting some support for what is, for me, a heartbreaking situation, to heal from this feeling of abandonment and perhaps get the chance to work on a relationship that has lasted for over half of my life in case this is a symptom of MLC.
I understand that if he wants children and "family life" now that he will not choose us - MLC or no. Was the purpose in your post to tell me that based on his desire to have a family now, I should just forget about trying to save the relationship? So, you are OK with the end of relationships/divorce as long as one person is leaving to pursue a family - or that white picket fence which is just as illusory as anything else. If it wasn't, forums like this would not exist.
KML, please know that I appreciate everyone's point of view and do appreciate your desire to alert me to the biological clock issue. And if I have come off a bit defensive, then I own that. As I said above, many people before you have simply nodded their heads in sage understanding - well, it is about children! - never mind about those of us left behind.
