Thanks, Sandi...
Yes paralyzed by OM situation is what I feel. I think you are saying I don't have to be? Makes sense...one to tango.

I fear W is paralyzed in that she hasn't forgiven. Are you saying she's not, that progress can be made even before forgiveness?

I believe I have done the things you said, in writing (before reading DR) and in person, ie admitting to my wrong, taking responsibility, expressing sorrow. Short of the words "Will you please forgive me?" as I have been afraid she is not ready.

Is it time to ask?

If she says not yet, continue to validate, when she brings it up, right?

Me 46 W 43
S 21 D 18 S 17
M 22 yrs
Discovered OM 9/10/12
W moved to sister's 9/15/12
W moved to OM 9/27/12
Tried to DB until 7/13
W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve.
I counter filed 12/2/13.