She may not be interested in working on the M at this time. But if she saw that being M to you would be different (as in much better) than it was before, then it could spark her interest. Don't expect her to have any desire to stay M to you if you don't give her reason. These cannot be discussed. Notice I said "cannot". Most men want to work it out by discussing the R, but she's way....way....past that point. All that will convince her is to see it. That means you will have to do all the work! It means you will have to make all the changes!
Now, if you are willing to do the work, then there a chance that M can be saved. If you don't do the work, then there is zero chance. Here's the catch: you have to be the best "you" possible, and you have to continue being your best from now on.......forever. Of course, we can help you and tell you ways to get through this ordeal. Much of what you need to know is "what not to do". But first you have to decide if you want it bad enough to really work this.
You will need to come here every day possible to post. Share your feelings and how things are going, and ask questions. Also read other stories here. You'll be surprised how much in common they have with you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
