Hi all, it's been a few days since I have posted and I wanted to start a new thread. I hope to keep it here in Newcomers bc I am basically starting over in the DB process in hopes to save myself. Doing these exercises in a way that will save my dignity since I believe my marriage isn't salvageable. I mean really how can you save this? He is a serial cheater with no empathy towards no one. The back and forth I thought I was doing bc that was the better and worse part was enabling his poor behavior and he still takes NO responsibility for anything.
I have has almost no contact with him. The contact that we had concerned the kids. He makes comments about me being out with someone and that he needs a jacket from the house but since I am out its no big deal he will get it some other time. I just dont respond. I am forcing myself to think less and less of ow. I had been border line obsessed with oh she must be so put together and they never fight and she is always perfect she is 26 as of tomorrow so she is the greatest thing and they are quitting smoking together Awwww you know all that ow must be better than me crap. I have been doing my best to stop it.
Along with that I am trying not to think of them having the most perfect R ever and how sweet he is with her and she is the one to change him. Blah blah blah.
Taking little steps to change my thoughts. One day at a time.
Me:37 H:38 6 kids first bomb 8/05 (ow involved) piecing 7/06 second bomb 3/07 ow involved wash rinse repeat.... huge move to start over 2/11 more affairs H left for good 8/12
