Yesterday, you can call it a slip-up, but I wasn't interested in the the DB aspect of the sitch. Somehow, in a text message conversation regarding the kids, the will of God came up. I said that we aren't in the will of God with this right now. She said speak for yourself. I asked her to explain. She said adultry. About four years ago, I had an EA with a co-worker. While there was some hugging and kissing, nothing else was the case. I ended it and even transferred schools to ensure it never happened again. It was even pre-salvation for me. She said that there is no such thing as just an EA, and she is in the will of God by doing this.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
Had a great time yesterday with friends. We watched football and hung out all day. My D had a friend stay the night with us, and it was so much fun.
Today, I dropped D off at the house. My W has packed up all my kitchen stuff, bought new pans and other supplies. I don't know why all these things still hurt me, but they do.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
You're in a tough position Grateful, I know you've read the other threads with As and the partner posting here grappling with all those feelings of anger and betrayal.
Some people won't get over it, they may forgive at some point but that may take a long time.
Continue on your path knowing that W has her own. Be the best father/co-parent you can be. I wouldn't bring up God's will to her again as it sounds blaming.
Move forward.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
I wouldn't bring up God's will to her again as it sounds blaming.
Move forward.
Agree. That just sounds like you are judging her, or trying to control her by using her faith against her. Think what you want, but I'd steer clear of that line of discussion.
I wouldn't bring up God's will to her again as it sounds blaming.
Move forward.
Agree. That just sounds like you are judging her, or trying to control her by using her faith against her. Think what you want, but I'd steer clear of that line of discussion.
I agree, and if I were being honest, I was indeed judging her. I need to continue seeing the log in my eye rather than the spec in her's.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
I am curious and in need of opinions. I have officially dropped the rope and moved beyond the need for our M to R. If it does, great. If not, great. However, I need to look at the best interest of the kids. They do not like the bouncing around. Speaking on for the kids (this would be hard for me, but their best interest comes first), do you think an every other weekend scenario works better for custody rather than thurs-sat each week?
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
The children need as much consistency as possible.
Having both parents in their lives Every week would seem to be the better of the 2 options proposed.
Will you miss out on alot of potential weekend fin with them if your S accepts the Th through Su option?
Will the children feel abandoned when your S has to get someone else to watch them when there are plans that do not include the children?
Ed
Me, 55 W, 36 T, 10 yrs S-9 M, 8 yrs 1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa 2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa W, AA relapse early 2009-Current W moved out 2-16-2012 New OM 5-2012
