Be true to yourself and what you need and it is never the wrong thing. You have made a difficult choice that will ultimately make life easier for you and has likely given you a sense of control over things that affect your life dramatically. Find your power and embrace it. You will discover that self empowerment in doing what you've done is not at all inconsistent with DBing.
My H has been gone over a year. He wanted all his things right away but that was impossible so once in awhile he would come and take a trunk load. The last time I saw him I lost it and ultimately moved the rest of his things into the garage where they still sit two months later. "no rush" he says now. I believe he'd been usin the excuse of getting his things as a way to see me. And now that he knows there's only one time left, he's holding on to it by not coming out. Or maybe my theory is wrong. Either way, heaving him has made detachment possible.
All this to say, where his things are is inconsequential to how this all works out. If it is MLC it's gonna take a long, long time. you've made a choice that's going to help you stay strong.
P.S. his brother sounds like a dolt. Your husband comes by his crappy irresponsible attitude honestly it appears.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
