Thank you LITB for your post. I agree I am in no position to put any conditions on H regarding OW. I know its completely out of my hands.

I will not initiate a conversation about this with H.

Thanks again LITB.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home