For me, I believe we are all capable of mistakes and even though I don't like the idea of my W with the OM but I do understand it was a part of me who helped drive her to this direction. I understand she made the decision but let's face it, if I did DB earlier, I might not have been in the situation.
I also am aware, she and I got married young, had kids young. During the time I met her, she was with a BF (who is the OM). He went to jail for a stupid crime. So she never had closure on that R.
Ever see that movie called "Hall Pass", its exactly what I am giving her. I also love her and the greatest gift I can give is forgiveness and happiness. It hurts me to let her go but I can get over it.
When I met her, I was there for all her tough times and I promised to always support her. She isn't a bad person, just lost. Trying to help her find her way either with or without me. Her journey isn't just about the OM, its about doing things she missed being single.
When I go dark, I have no expectations. I will go dark because it means she found happiness and I need to move on.
