Couldn't have said it better.

And about the respect, as I see it respect is earned not forced on someone.

You can make them cower and be fearful with your anger and attempts to control, but that's not respect.

As 25 says, hold that mirror up to yourself.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss