Do you understand why she resents the fact she worked two jobs while you were slack?
After my D got sick and the medical bills started to mount, I would leave my FT day job and head straight for my night job. I worked seven days a week trying to keep the bills paid. Not one time did my H try to assure me that we would make it........or tell me to stay home with the kids amd "he" would hold down two jobs. A need we women have is security. Most will follow their men into whatever business venture or employment he thinks is best for the family. She may even hold down more than one job.......but if he doesn't seem to be working at least as hard as she is for their family (when it is necessary to survive).....she'll more than likely have resentment. That is often one of those things she pushes down inside of her, instead of confronting him and working through it.
So, why did your blood suddenly run cold? That's a pretty serious statement when expressing emotions.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
