The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[FloydMan]

Anotherstander, I get all your points totally. I definitely am not perfect, but was loyal and faithful. I came to terms with my faults and had worked on them and continute to work on others. She still says I am an amazing father but she wants custody. I have always cooked, cleaned among many chores. We split duties equitably and she agrees to that. She agreed to shared custody, until she saw the lawyer.
My 14 year old daughter posted on her FB page a picture of the for sale sign with the caption : "I hate everything" with a broken heart symbol. I held and hugged her and told her how much I love her. My 10 year old threw a fit about the sign and yelled at her mother. Her mother was so cold with her and only got mad back and told her to snap out of it. No consoling. My 14 year old told me this as I was at work at the time when that happened. I have been consoling them and talking to them about their own couselling which they reject. My wife has been so angry and mean spirited for several months. She does not want me to be nice to her or do her any favors. She says she will never do anything for me including my laundry. I asked her not to months ago and several times since yet she keeps doing it. She said again last night she will not do it, yet she did today. The other day I walked the dog in the cold and came back and she had a latte waiting for me to warm me up. I don't get it.
I do want my marriage and family. I was hurt so bad and felt like a victim. I get how that works now and should not have. She had wanted 2 years to work on the M and only gave it 7-8 months. I think we needed a solutions based therapy first to get us good and then the other type. Michele's book makes so much sense of what happened and why. I pray not too late.