The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[FloydMan]

You all make so much sense. I definitely got clingy. I was never that way before all this broke last year. I did come to understand why the A happened. Neither of us were perfect. I worked and changed so many things, but this clinginess really turned her off. She feels I can't trust or forgive her, but I guess I demonstrated that with my words in May. Both therapists said she cannot deal with her childhood wounds or acccept she i part to blame for the disconnect. Perhaps too much guilt about the A makes her not see that?
No, I was not a perfect husband but always was told I was. Goes to Michele's point of when they stop complaining. We did have good, regular sex. She still says that was never the problem. She still thinks I am very handsome. She is very beautiful. We lost connection. I found my escape in my kids, coaching, work. The stress and toll of it all took something away from me and I lost some confidence as I felt I was not getting the intimacy (not sex) I wanted from her. I guess we kinda felt the same way but never discussed it and took or own routes for escape. I was hurt and confused. Just never got the "I will never do that again" assurance. That created anxiety which drove her nuts and ai was never that type before. Never was suspicious but now she feels I watch every move. She accused me of have a PI and cameraa's in the house. I had done neither. Sometimes her accusations are way out there. I do want to save this marriage. My kids are devastated too.