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I don't think you should talk to your H either about a move. You do not have to commit to anything at this time. Like Cadet said, doing nothing is doing something. Wait until everything is clear and there is no doubting or second guessing your decision.

Unfortunately you are not in a position to attach any conditions in regards to OW. It comes across as being manipulative. I realize that is not your intent. I'm afraid that you will be disappointed with the outcome.