Ok when you put it like that, it seems to me I am being very narrow in my thought process.
It should be MY decision what I do regardless of H, OW and a potential move. I am conflicted though because deep down I do not want us to be geographically separated. Yet it seems like I would just be setting myself up for more trauma.
But you are right. I need to stay still and let time bring the answer as I go along.
I was afraid of not being honest with H about my concerns. That perhaps it was unfair if he thinks that all is honkey dory and whatever he envisions for the future, we will be there no matter what. Yet, I suppose there is no need to rush this. So you don't think I should even ask him what he envisions? and then just listen? Or is that still too early? Would his words still be wrapped in fantasy?
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
