Wrong, I do need to start changing things for the future. Work, school, not sure yet, both.

Any thoughts on this crossroads we seem to be at - I think my H is withdrawing and starting to accept (1st stage of acceptance) he said this is his life and the flip, new attitude, is what he needs to continue on while dragging the disappointment with him like a cross.

I welcome the peace, the time, the continued commitment to financial support, but do I continue DBing or is there another step, a new phase, or keep doing what worked so far?

The past can't be ahead of you in the future.
You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction.
What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!