Sam4nh, don't you see what is really happening here? I mean really?
I read your post and the first thing I saw was that she wants to work on her. Her actions show that. But she also doesn't want to let go of you. Her actions show that too.
In other words, unless you do something to make it so, then it's not over. You have a tremendous amount of power in this relationship. She is like the kid who ran away from home - literally. She wants her "freedom" but doesn't want to run away too far so she can be back in time for dinner.
There's no telling what she wants to talk about, dude. But she is not ready to call it quits. You may be. Or you may just be hurt....
The telling sign she isn't done at the moment? She doesn't want you to tell friends and family what's going on. That's code for "give me time". To be blunt...
Believe me, you'll know when she is done and when you are done. There won't be any question or uncomfortable interactions. There won't be interactions at all most likely.
Don't beat yourself up for how you feel or act. You are who you are. But try to be patient with her. It may not work out like you want it to, but it is what she is telling you she needs right now. Time to give a bit, don't you think?
Peace,
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
