Hi - we seem to have a lot in common. I've been doing basically the same thing you've been doing, since June 2011. My H did not move out but he otherwise acts much like yours and is occasionally working toward getting a divorce.

You sound good, and like you're doing the right things. You may have no control over him or what happens to your M but you're not making things worse and you're being a great role model for your girls.

This site is great for venting, exploring your emotions, getting all kinds of feedback. I'm glad you're here.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.