CV, to be clear, I want to point out that my post above regarding RLA's post, is not intended to be a judgement on you. It is very human for people to be focused on their own life context. To that end, especially when in stressful situations, that focus becomes even more "important" to us, as we seek self preservation, as though our very life depended on it.
As you continue your journey, CV, your continued focus on the value your H can (should?) provide to you will inevitably stall any intrinsic growth that may otherwise come to you.
Whether we are talking about your H, or talking about anyone who you may come in contact with (or ANYTHING you may come in contact with, for that matter), is it really important to weigh the pros and cons of what value you must get in order for you to continue to simply be the best person you can be, always?
Does someone ever NOT deserve your best? No matter how good or bad you may perceive them to be, why should that matter how you are, with them?
