Bonsoir, W was giving too much attention to the new born and nothing to the husband. At first I thought it was normal, then, I knew something was wrong... Now she is over protective. The kid can't stand on a chair without her running to get him in case he falls..
She is seeking D because, if I understand well, 1.I was not family minded enough. And 2. I spent unwisely all the money on fun things for me (mainly sports things). These two things are easy to amend, which I did. But it seems her pride refuses to admit that it was a little silly, so almost just to make a point, she intends to pursue D until she has it, to not make a fool of herself.
As for the supervised visits, it all started because her dad first gave her a ride and was there when we first meet when I arrived. Then, the grandmother who keeps our son during the day came along for each visit, and she said it was better due to the emotionally difficulty of the situation. And so it was that they were only available twice a week, and they came up with this thing that it was the law, my visits had to be supervised. Which I never contested or argued, for the sake of reconciliation.
I just come back from the lawyer, and all of it is BS as I long knew it was. She petitions 100% custody, but it isn't likely to happen. So, to answer the question of respect, she will begin to see that I am not a yes-yes nice guy (in a bad sense), but I have the guts to say enough is enough, and ask for what is mine and which is my fair right. Maybe also she will realize that D is ugly, it brings destruction and not happiness or fulfilment or freedom...
I will be extra careful in always taking the high road in my behaviour and feelings. After all I'm a Christian and my attitude should be perfect in my relation to my wife.
As a matter of fact, I know she is blinded for the moment. It could've had happened to me, and I would want my wife to be patient and fight to save our couple. So, I will love her the best I can, be her friend and supporter, her listener and understander. I want to be the best father for our son, teach him my language, traditions, music and culinary art and the love for French literature.
That's really all I can do, my best friend, my wife, is the very one who can't help me.
Me:34 ; W:28 Son: almost 2. Married : 14 March 2009 DBomb : 18 June 2012 Separated since Jan 2012 (different countries) Same country and city since July 2012
