Realistic Optimist Hard At Work

[ForeverYoung]

JAG, I just finished reading your entire thread, and can relate to much of your sitch. In particular, the fact that my W also feels no passion for me, we almost never argue, and have been living as roommates. Like you, I also have read Marshall's ILYBINILWY, and found it described well how we ended up where we are now. The biggest difference in our sitchs, is that your wife is showing some interest in working on the M, and mine is not because she is in MLC.

Should I tell her how I am hurting?

I think 25yrs gave you the answer to this question a while back:

First, let's start when she says "why won't you let me in?" by you saying you are NOT OKAY WITH A SEXLESS MARRIAGE AND A ROOMIE RELATIONSHIP...

you'll give her some time BUT you have a time LIMIT too, like any h would...

I think you are in a better position than most on this board to save your marriage. I'll be staying tuned.