My Security Blanket

[bustingout]

One more thing. What I would like to say is this [i](but again, I don't know if this is the right time, or I wait until he decides for sure)[/i]:

H, I do not want the family geographically separated. However, I cannot make this move, if OW is still in the picture, regardless of our sitch.

I envision H would respond to this with something around the lines of:

Busting, I don't want to R with you. This is my life and I am with OW now. So it shouldn't matter if she is there or not because its none of your business

Then I would respond alone the lines of:

H, I understand that. However, it is still not something I can do. Its too painful for me, whatever the circumstances are between us. I do not choose to live like that. So perhaps we should not all move together.

Then I imagine him getting angry and saying I am using the kids, or pressuring him, or manipulating...etc. And I am NOT. But I know he won't see that.