I think the first thing you have to resolve is the question of the A being a deal breaker or not. If it is, then move on. Only you have the power to forgive. It’s not up to her. You may think she should earn it, but it doesn’t work like that. You decide about forgiving. It is for your sake. Otherwise, you will be a prisoner. Don’t wait for her to ask for it b/c she may never ask. Forgiveness does not mean you approve of what she's done.
Don’t let her see desperation in you. Men who seek assurance from the W is often seen by her as being weak, and she loses respect for him as a man. A woman has to respect a man in order to feel in love with him. If you don’t see that outward respect is shown, then she certainly won’t respect you in her heart.
A woman wants a man who will be a strong leader for the family. Even if that woman is in an A, she still needs to see him standing tall and strong. He cannot afford to show weakness. Take the lead. Be in charge of your life. Instead of thinking you can’t handle this, you must believe that you will come through this being a better man than you were in the beginning of the problems.
Focus on you and what you are doing to be a better person. What are you doing to enjoy your life? You didn’t make friends and now you don’t know what to do that doesn’t include her. So, where can you go and what can you do to meet people? Get involved with new things. This is the season for new opportunities!
Don’t have the attitude that this is the end b/c that gives off a very negative vive and nobody will want to be around you. Believe in yourself and what you have control over in your life.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
