Thanks everyone. I feel like I have done too much thinking today. We had a great Thanksgiving at my brother's yesterday. No, my family does not know what is going on with my marriage. I started the day out livid though. My H went out after work on Wed. and didn't come home until 11 am yesterday morning. I feel that because he thinks I want a divorce, because I told him I would file after the holidays (see my first post of this thread), that it is almost giving him permission to see the OW, even though in the last conversation (posted above) he denied he had a "girlfriend." Since the last conversation, we have been getting along great. In fact, aside form a couple of tense conversations, we have been getting along since this whole thing blew up and before. I don't pressure, I am being great with him, happy, etc. However, part of what we do is sometimes ignore the issue and not talk about the elephant in the room, but the couple of times I have brought up the OW, it ends up being an argument and I get it. He will deny, deny, deny.
I think I know the answer, but do I tell him I don't want a divorce or do I just keep reading DR, keep on with GAL, being the best person when I am with him and wait for the affair to die a natural death?
