I agree with Denver. Even though we say to pull back and not pursue, at the same time...you have to keep a positive mental attitude about things in your life. You need to think of yourself as being the best option for your wife. It gives off the air, vibe, sense.....whatever you want to call it.....that you are self-confident regardless of what she thinks she wants. That makes you better.

Don't just "accept" whatever happens as being predertmined in God's plan for your life and you don't have a choice in it. God doesn't want families split apart.

((hugs))

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!