Heather, What I meant is that he's going to have contact w/you at some point and the conversation is going to swing back to the apologies, etc. and then you can say what you have to say then.
Is it a good thing? Honestly, I don't know how your h will react when you discuss this w/him...it could be if he listens, understands an comprehends what you are telling him. If he doesn't listen, no then it won't be a good thing...it all depends upon the timing.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
