So I know I said I was taking some time away from here, but something happened and I could use some advice.

Last night when I dropped the kids off with my w, I mentioned that I would like to buy our niece and nephew(on her side) a Christmas gift. This upset her, so I told her if it bothers you I will not do it. I said goodbye to the kids and left. A little while later I received this text, "I realize you can not control how your family acts towards me, but I have talked to mine and that is the reason they are always nice to you. If I were to buy something for O and B(my niece and nephew) it would probably be tossed. I am probably just jealous that you feel you can still buy for my niece and nephew.

I have not responded to this and I know that I don't have to. Wondering at what point do we as LBS's say bullshit?

I would like to reply this, W, I wasn't sure how or if I should reply to your last text, but after thinking about it I would like to say bullshit. I don't believe for one second that the only reason your family is nice to me is because you asked them to be. It couldn't be because they know that more than anything I want my family together, that I continue to love, support and respect their daughter even after she walked out. It couldn't be because I am a man that has admitted my mistakes, apologized for them and is trying to change the things about myself that I can change. And your right I can not control my family, but I have talked to them and I know the love for you is still there, but they are very hurt by all of this. Have they handled it the best, probably not, but that is not for either of us to judge. I assume that both sides are acting they way they are because they know which one of us is standing for their family, and which one of us walked out the door.

Is there a better way to handle this, maybe some way to validate, leave it alone and not reply, or call her out?

Me 37/W 32
S 5
D 4
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