I detached, he came back, but now it's BAD

[Snookee]

H had been living with OW which I was not sure they were doing. He moved out from me 5 months ago. Anyway we would see each other periodically and be intimate. I got angry at him in Sept. and he dared me to tell her and I did! Big mistake really but I felt that now she knew. Took me many apologies and detachment to get trust again. So we met and had a great time where gambling is and he left. 20 later he calls and asks if I called "her". I said of course not but she knew I was there. I believe she had him followed. So she threw him out that night and he came home. Of course this was not the way I wanted him to come back and I really wanted it to be his choice. So he was here and I left him alone basically to gather himself. Days later I'm looking to talk a little and about 9 days into it he says he's moving out and I shouldn't have gotten my hopes up.

I was devastated again. It was like him leaving me the first time all over. I told him that I never expected anything and suggested that we see someone for short term therapy. He says its over and I say when a third party tells me that then ill believe him. He just doesn't want to go to any therapy since he feels that it didn't work 8 years ago. I just figured that if you're handed lemons you make lemonade. You make the best of a situation ESPECIALLY since we were getting along so well prior to him getting kicked out. Now I'm back to this mess feeling and I really don't know now what to do. I wish he hadn't come so we could've still become closer. Now what???