No, you don't want to slap them...you want to do brain surgery...the entire brain needs to be revamped.
I'm sorry he's still acting like a PIA. He was determined to find some flaw/fault in you and your daughter...why? Because he wanted you to be as miserable as he is. Who the h@ll is he to be questioning your parenting skills? If he was so darn interested in whether or not your daughter had apologized, he would have made the "effort" to come get her and drive her around to the neighbors to ensure that she had apologized. He needs electric shock treatments for a good long while.
I'm very glad to see that Thanksgiving turned out well for you. Don't allow this man to walk all over you. He needs to look at himself in the mirror before casting stones at others.
I hope the rest of your weekend will be fun and relaxing. Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.