UF makes a great point. She sees you taking a stand for yourself, which causes her to break out the artillery to make you retreat. The choices you make at these major junctures will make a huge impact either way. Your W is watching, even if she isn't acknowledging it.
In general, people remember the negative things that happen. Don't give her any ammo. Consistent, positive change.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
