It sounds like you are moving in the right direction.
He may not think there's terrible news because possibly in his mind its all already settled. He may very well see your visit as just that, a visit with an old flame. Remember to have no expectations - something I find hard to do myself.
Good luck. Let us know how it goes.
And btw, you don't come across to me as wishy washy. Stunned, shocked, dismayed, but not wishy washy or weak. You, like many of us, have simply been blind sided. That's bound to be disorienting.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
