Right, and neither do the rest of us. Yet we all have to come to grips with the fact that no matter what we do or don't do, it may come to that.
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My daughter and I need her, and she doesn't care.
Actually, you don't need her, you want her. The sooner you accept that you can still live a happy and fulfilling life without her, the sooner you can begin to recover from the deep pain you are now in. Don't be too hard on yourself for how you feel now, it will take time to heal. Do you have one close friend you can confide in?
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I also know what she wants to do, and I don't want her to make mistakes that she will regret for the rest of her life.
Right. So my advice is you clearly tell her your concerns ONE TIME, (or one last time) and then let it go. Choose a time when you feel she will be most likely to actually hear what you are saying. Then no more relationship talks, or trying to convince her she is wrong. Let her go! I know you want the magic words or actions that will convince her to change her mind... unfortunatly there are none.
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We don't have a lot of money, I took over the finances in January. She doesn't like it, and complains that I don't let her buy what ever she wants. I am trying to make sure the bills get paid. We already have separate accounts so she can only drain hers.
Good.
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My whole issue with this situation, is the fact that she doesn't want her daughter. She used to like being a wife and parent, now she doesn't want either. All she wants is sex with as many partners as she can, and could care less what damage she leaves in her wake.
This is where she is now, but it could change. Keep reading and following the advice of those who have been where you are now. Have you considered talking with a DB coach? Be strong my friend, you will get through this.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
