MLC, affair, internet pictures, we're a mess

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feel like communication in that manner is another way she is trying to bait me into an argument. I feel like she has gone out of her way to send a three letter text to let me know just how much she doesn't care. No response would have been sufficient and not at all interpreted by me as being mean. This response just seesm mean to me. How do others "act as if" and just ignore this stuff? Instead of reading into it being snippy, do you just reinterpret this stuff "as if" she said, "Tht's escellent, honey. Thanks for stopping off to get the wine. By the way we have white so I was hoping you'd choose a great red. You're so good at picking out wine to go with dinner." When I do that, I already smile a bit knowing, that, YES, I am picking out a great wine that our family will enjoy. I am good at that (not that I need her approval, but I'd rather go without anything than what seems like baiting for a fight).

This is mind-reading, if you have the book look it up. You don't re-interpret it, you ignore it because you really have no idea what she meant. Doing this will make you crazy. Ask me. I've been an mind- and signal-reader all my life.

It's so much easier to let that go and focus on how you can change.