I doubt you can blame it all on 50 Shades of Gray-she was unhappy before. Blaming her actions on something else is looking to place blame and that keeps the focus off you.

You have to work on you, that's the only thing you control. What are your goals for this week, this month, the next 6 months?

Also you should get legal advice before you plan to take your child out of state.

Have you had a money discussion with her?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss