I am so sorry you and your son are going through this. I hope he feels better and that you had a great time with him and with your holiday today even with the change of plans. I send you a big hug.
As usual, you have really analyzed your behavior, your motivations and come to the right conclusion and answer within yourself. Thanks for being such a great example for me and others to follow.
When I grow up I want to be like you.
Originally Posted By: Accuray
W still does that to me. I text her that I will be home late from work. No response. Did she get it? Who knows. If I need a response I have to call, otherwise just let it float in the wind.
Regarding ^^^^ I have also experienced it. H doesn't respond to probably 50% of the times I either text, email or call him about things that are either administrative or related to the kids. Last year it was worse - I think it was more like 90% of the time, so I guess this is progress - LOL...
I do agree that we should have no expectations to receive an answer. Yet I understand LaBug. It's hard not to have them when it comes to certain tough parenting issues. It's only human to still want or look for support from a co-parent in part for ourselves, but perhaps more so for our expectation that they care about their kids. That is harder at least for me to let go because my protective instinct about my struggling child also kicks in.
Not to mention it being a complete lack of basic manners. I know at least that my H responds to other people's messages, even mere acquaintances because it's just the right thing to do and how he was raised. Knowing it makes it harder not to take it personal.
Yet I agree 100% - out of our control, so need to let it go.
I hope you all had a great day today!
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
