RegretfulLA, I agree with both you and AJ, (and KD as such,) perspective does makes all the difference. I always use the word "attitude" in my own life, but I think it's basically the same thing. It's very unfortunate that your H is not seeing your changes, as I'm sure you're working very hard on them. The fact is, there is something for him to see. He doesn't simply have to change how he looks at things, because things really are different. (At the same time, I still think your H carries a whole lot of responsibility in your sitch that he's managing to avoid owning, but that's a different post.)
So while we went all day yesterday not interacting much (his kids came over) and all day today not interacting much (we went to see my family) and I'm sure we won't interact much over the weekend (heading north to visit his family,) I just wonder what to do about the elephant in the room? It's very cold and distant. It bothers me, but I'm not allowed to bring it up to him because that pixxes him off. Meanwhile, he's at his computer right now watching videos on how to install his new speakers in his car. Of course he would tell me he desperately wants to improve our M.
